Having Is Not Possessing, Because Possessing Is Not Love
Even today, many people confuse possessing with true love, something in which they are terribly wrong. Has owning ever worked in a relationship? Why do problems arise if we think this way?
Today we will discover the great differences that exist between having, possessing and what this has to do with love or not. Let’s go there!
Having someone is not owning
Although at first we believe that having and possessing have something to do with it, the truth is that in terms of relationships there is a great gulf between these two terms. Having someone does not imply any possession whatsoever and this is something that we have to take into account.
Having someone means that we have that special person by our side without being forced to do so. That person whom we love and desire, but who we know is free. She gives us her company, she loves us, she shares her life with us, but she does it completely freely.
There are people who by the mere fact that others want to be with them already believe that they have them. They do not realize that people are not objects, that they have no obligation to remain by their side forever. They are free!
On the other hand, owning often implies insecurity because, as we have said, people are not objects. People come and go, enter our life and leave it. Although we have them in our life, we cannot retain them because we do not have them.
Confuse love with possession
How do we know that we are confusing love with possession? The ultimate manifestation of this is jealousy. When a person is excessively jealous, that person wants to possess their partner. Perhaps you have a misconception of what love is, perhaps you do not know that there is a fear that is not justified at all behind it.
But, if we go deeper into this topic, we will find ourselves with much more difficult situations such as abuse, both psychological and physical, which affects many relationships. Abuse is still another form of possession, of marking the territory, of having power.
This is why confusing love with possession is not only a trivial matter, but leads to unpleasant situations that destroy relationships and, above all, people. But … Why do you go to these extremes? Why is it so hard not to own others?
Perhaps it is because of the many love stories that we have seen and that still promise us happy endings. Also, for those “together forever” that is the simple, ornate and perfect description of true possession.
We must open our minds, leave this love-possession relationship that has become so outdated. Now, we can see that love-possession as a love-having. We have that person who shares his life with us, but who we do not possess because he is free.
Believing that we cannot live without our partner is a lie that we constantly tell ourselves. How many times have you thought this about a relationship that later ended? Perhaps we are continually dramatizing the reality of relationships when we should be more realistic.
But we love to believe in happy endings and romantic movies that don’t show even a small part of what happens in reality.
How do you see relationships? Is it difficult for you to love without possessing? We just have to reflect on this and begin to change our perception. Love should be happiness and freedom, not suffering or possession.
