Overcome The Walls That Prevent You From Advancing

Life is a road. Visualizing it like this is a metaphor that has always been used, both in literature and in psychology. And we all know that it is not exactly a straight and easy path: there are ups, downs, detours, and many walls to overcome. However, we have to keep moving forward.

The problem comes when we deviate from that path, not to take a detour, but to enter a cul-de-sac. It happens without even realizing it, we think it is a shortcut, a way to continue our journey and, without waiting for it, we end up in front of a wall.

And what happens is that sometimes we stand still at the end of that street, staring at that wall, not understanding why there is no way out, or waiting for a door to magically open. We suffer because we cannot keep walking, but we do not go back: We stand in front of the wall, sad, or hitting it desperately.

Dare to jump over the walls

Let’s get out of the metaphor and go back to our everyday life . There are situations and people that lead us nowhere, that leave us in that dead-end street.

There are relationships or friendship that do us no good or have a future, but we still cling to them desperately. And there are projects or jobs that distress us, that do not bring us anything, but that we cannot give up.

When we are in a situation that hurts us and causes us unhappiness, we must stop to reflect : am I overcoming an obstacle or am I paralyzed in a dead end?

In the metaphor it consists of taking a deep breath, turning around, and leaving the cul-de-sac. Without looking at the wall that we have left behind. Return to the main road, with its steep slopes, its detours and its stones to stumble upon …, but at the end of the day, with its advances and with all its opportunities and possibilities for the future.

However, in life it is about getting away from situations or people that paralyze us and doing something good for ourselves. We think it hurts to let go. We think that we will not be able, we mentally review everything that can go wrong if we do.

The fear of the unknown hurts

What hurts is holding on and feeling the fear of changing things, the anxiety in the face of the unknown. Deep down, the walls that prevent us from moving forward are something familiar and familiar, and we are scared of facing something else. Let’s be brave. Let’s call things by their name, let’s find out what the walls of our life are.

Our wall may be a couple or an ex-partner. Maybe a friend, a family member, a partner. It may be a job that we did not know how to say no to, or some studies that did not respond to our true vocation. It can even be a hobby that we hate, but that we strive to do to make someone happy.

Hitting those walls over and over again doesn’t make us strong. It produces us anxiety, frustration, bad mood, sadness. And what is worse, hopelessness and conformity. That “I can’t do anything” or “I will never get out of this situation” thought.

Let’s get back on our way and move towards what we want to achieve and who we want to be. Without a doubt, an exciting journey awaits us.