Acting, A Problem For People Living In Fear
We all have some fear that prevents us from acting, whether our partner leaves us, we lose our job or have an accident, among others. A series of attitudes underlie them that favor, in a subtle way, that what we feel so dread about is very present.
Now, when something scares us, in some way or another we can end up attracting it. For example, if we fear being abandoned by other people, we will meet friends or partners who will make us relive that feeling of abandonment over and over again.
Confirming that what we fear is happening can paralyze us or think we are unlucky. Hence, we are afraid to act and take a step further, to get out of that situation in which fear and insecurity control our lives.
Get ahead of events
The problem we have if we live in fear is that we are always anticipating events. In this way, we assume and imagine everything that may happen in the future. We say things like “I know this job won’t last long”, “In the end, they’ll find someone they like better than me” or “I don’t even think about starting a business on my own. It won’t work out for me. “
With all these premises, it is very difficult for us to act. In addition, this has a serious consequence, we will end up feeling stagnant due to the limits that we have been setting ourselves. Some barriers that we have been tightening over time to the point that our comfort zone has become a fairly small space.
Living in constant fear is our perception. It’s not real. We venture to try to imagine what will happen if we make certain decisions or what will happen if we leave our comfort zone. But this will not have a happy ending, since we are fertilizing a terrain full of insecurities that will not wait to manifest and prove us right.
Acting is essential
Acting is a must. From things as basic as knowing what we want to study, what we want to dedicate ourselves to or whether or not we want a person as a couple. Because if we are so afraid and so complicated it makes us make decisions, how will we manage to do it when we have no other option?
That’s when we make the biggest mistakes. Waiting until the last moment to make a decision can make us choose badly. In the same way, by being so afraid to act, we may allow others to make decisions for us. And this is a serious mistake.
If we have already identified with these characteristics and it is difficult for us to take action, then we will also be aware that we always try to have everything under control. It is a necessity. However, this is impossible, no matter how much we want it.
Imagine being fired from work suddenly and unexpectedly. We would not know what decision to make. In the same way it happens if, one day, our partner tells us that he is leaving us. Being people with difficulties to make decisions and act, surprises will not be welcome.
Now, when we stay still and safe in our comfort zone, something also happens. Little by little that fear that has us so constrained is wearing us down from the inside. This can be seen in the doubts that we constantly carry behind our backs or in those insecurities that make us not achieve any success when, in reality, we are capable of achieving it.
Acting is essential to live as we want and to prevent others from directing us. We all have fears and they can be overcome. What’s more, instead of allowing them to limit us, we can use them to our advantage. How? Using the strength they have to make us tremble, doubt and want to run away, to throw us in the pool and act. Allowing us to decide without prioritizing the fears of our mind. Well, in her the fears have force until we start to act.
