Friendship Is Not Eternal

Friendship is part of our lives, it is born, grows and ends, as we mature and change. Learning to accept the different stages that relationships with others go through in our lives will allow us to enjoy them more intensely, since we know that friendship can end for different reasons.

Take care of your friends, they are a treasure. We never know how long they will share their life with you. And like any treasure, the suffering of loss or distance will be less, if while it lasted we knew how to take full advantage of it.

Who are the friends

Often, we hear the word friend or friend, and a multitude of phrases about them. However, most of these references do not give you the value that friendship has, the depth of feelings that it carries.

It is not necessary to mention in addition, the importance of friendship in the life of any person. Friendship fills us, enriches us and makes us grow together with someone  with whom we can share our feelings and life experiences.

What does friendship need?

Friendship, like a plant or affective relationships, also needs time, care, interest, sincerity and contact. We call friendship a relationship full of feelings and affections towards the other person, thus differentiating it from any other relationship that lacks them.

So that we talk about friendship, the feelings between both friends will be of affection, affection, love… Therefore, the relationship will be full of close attitudes and special details.

In addition, a friendship is born and is maintained when we share something in common, for example, life values, hobbies, political or religious ideas, children of the same age, etc …

From the school…

There is no doubt that we can make great friends at school and that they will last for many years to come. However, this does not prevent new friendships from emerging throughout other stages of life. Those who have studied a university degree, know that in this period of their life a part of the best friendships usually emerge. The same goes for jobs. As we mature, we get to know each other better and, in this way, we establish more sincere relationships with those with whom we connect more intensely.

However, friends are often lost, they are left only in the memory of the past good times, they are left behind, almost in oblivion of a stage that has passed. A great majority of friends from school tend to be left in the past. Each one takes different stumbles: studies, work, place of residence … That is why, over time, they find very good friends away from school. With how many classmates at school do we maintain an intimate friendship?

How long does a friendship last?

Obviously, there is no definite or limited time for a friendship relationship. However, there is an explanation as to why they are over, forgotten, lost in the past and remain only in our memories.

A friendship is born when we coincide, in our scale of values, in common projects, in ideas or ideals, and this unites us, spending time together in long conversations, work or fun. A friendship usually arises at a certain stage of our life, and it will often end when this stage is over.

A stage ends when there is a change in us, we evolve, mature, grow or simply adapt to new circumstances. Sometimes, we are not the ones who change the stage, but our friends are, and therefore, the friendship ends as well.

Each stage, its values ​​and its needs

When we are children, friends play a very important role, however, we do not know who we really are, or how we will guide our lives. When this happens, we will most likely move away, finding other friends with whom to share the new stage.

This process repeats itself throughout life, as many times as we change values, mature or when we decide to turn our lives upside down. Every time we change, our surroundings are modified. Most changes tend to attract more changes, so something similar happens at the level of friends.

There are several distinct stages in life that can lead to changes in friendships. For example, childhood and the school period, adolescence and the choice of studies. Reaching adulthood also brings changes, as well as job incorporation, motherhood and fatherhood, job changes, having a partner or changing partners, crises and retirement, among others.

Friendship is not eternal

At all stages, friendships make an important mark, so deep that we never want it to end, however, it is part of the law of life. Many friendly relationships end without any will. Simply, and gradually, we are moving away from those people with whom we feel that we no longer share so many good moments. We stop feeling that rapport and almost without realizing it one day we utter the typical phrase: “I haven’t heard from my friend for years . “

We will share our lives with those of us who live values ​​common to ours. And so, we can say that we are friends because we have crossed our paths in life and we will continue to be so until our paths follow different directions. Even so, friends remain in us forever, because of what we learned with them, because of everything we lived and shared. Friendship is part of our growth, without it, it would not be possible to evolve.

And sometimes, this evolution means that each one follows his path, his rhythm, his process and his own values, ending a wonderful friendship period while it lasted. A stage in which we learned a little more about human relationships and ourselves. A few moments in which they undoubtedly helped us to be who we are today. Because each period of our life and each person in it, will leave a mark on us and will end up being part of us.