To Get The Best Out Of Someone, We Have To Put The Best Of Ourselves

Surely at some point in your life you have felt frustrated because you saw how someone with great human potential was not giving you their best. It may even be that some disappointment has led you to ask yourself if it is enough to put the best of one to be able to get the best of the other.

The truth is that when we talk about interpersonal relationships, although we cannot always put a label on that relationship, everything positive adds up. In some cases, we may not be able to promote the relationship so that it is as good as we would like, since the last word is from the other, but we will get closer.

Remember that the important thing is that the other treats us the best they can, even if sometimes they are not able to contribute as much as we would like. Patience in this case can be an ally, let’s think that relationships also need to develop and grow in order to shine.

You deserve as much as the others

In our relationships with others, it is convenient not to demand the exact fulfillment of our wishes, since this demand can have the opposite reverse. He thinks that  it is not a healthy relationship one in which both parties feel completely conditioned and even lacking in freedom. Instead, doing your best with flexibility and patience can be the best invitation for others to do the same with you.

And isn’t it true that, whether it’s in a friendship, a love relationship, or even a family relationship, we feel loved when we both work hard? In fact, taking this reciprocity into account is also beneficial for us: in the same way that you put the best of yourself, you are also able to see the equitable behavior in the other.

The balance of a symmetrical relationship will help us to develop the best version of ourselves in it,  even unconsciously. That will mean that we perceive that the other person is worthwhile and that we form a good team.

Doing your best is a sign of confidence

Stephen Covey stated that “if you want to awaken trust, you must be trustworthy” and indeed for others to open up, we may have to be the first to embrace one way or another. Do not be afraid to do it, since knowing your fears and your virtues will make others place their trust in you to reveal theirs, and it is very gratifying that someone considers us worthy of it.

In fact, being able to put your best foot forward means being confident enough to know that those inner fears, flaws, or darkness are not great enough to overshadow all the good we can offer. Therefore, do not be afraid, since knowing and valuing you will give the opportunity, to those around you, to see each and every one of your virtues.

Everyone will appreciate that you trust you and, therefore, they will feel safe in your company: in the bonds we have, a kind of closed circle is created in which several people move in unison and the edges are smoothed.

Offer without interest, receive with gratitude

We all know the saying of “each one reaps what he sows”. Have you ever felt like this? We may not see results in the short term in putting the best of ourselves, but in the long run, it will be one more reason for happiness.

First of all, because of how good it feels to give ; second, because our relationships will be stronger ; thirdly, because others will give themselves to us honestly and without our asking.

Probably, we have ever experienced this feeling with the rest and they have also done it with us: if we continually demand and do not recognize what they do to make us feel better, it will end up having a hard time giving us everything they could. However, others usually do  their best when they see that we do too.

Discovering what is inside those we love is as beautiful as realizing what is in ours. Reciprocity is the key between two people who strive to maintain strong and healthy ties : it ends up becoming what saves us – as Neruda would say – from life, love.